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Mums Matter too!
How to transform the difficult child using the Nutured Heart Approach.
This approach attempts to shift the child's intensity into more self-actuating experiences.
Supported by laughter guru Patch Adams MD and created by the Successful Child Foundation.
It's a new generation!
spirited child
click here if you live in the UK
Raising your Spirited Child Click here if you live in the States
A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic.
Click the US flag to read extracts online
Indigo children
click here if you live in the UK
Indigo Children Click here if you live in the States
Here to help the human race transform?
Indigo children are bright, intuitive, strong- willed, sometimes self- destructive, often labelled - as having ADD or ADHD - and they may exhibit behavioural problems at home and in school.

In this text, written not only for parents and teachers, but also for indigo children who are now young adults, Doreen Virtue explores the psyche of these special children, aiming to positively affect the ways in which parents interact with their children
More about Indigo adults and kids.
Parenting the Strong-willed child
Learn a new parenting skill each week - includes a day by day schedule.
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Spirited Kids
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These are the ones who have guts and gumption and will do well in life - as long as they get through childhood and adolescence in one piece - which, considering their escapades and daring, may often be in doubt....

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For really spirited kids, check out the Spirited Kids Foundation but before you do, see if a little kindly behaviour modification might do the trick with Gary Robinson's Guidelines for parents with children who can be difficult to care for and control.

Who Put the Ketchup in the Medecine Cabinet
or Go Ask Mom! is by a mother for mothers of kids who are ADHD but 'Inattentive/Distracted type'.

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And just to help you sleep better at night, this I love!! Rosemond's Bill of Rights for Children ;-)

John Rosemond has deveoped a website based on his ideal of Affirmative Parenting

But just to balance things out, here is a family therapist's view of John Rosemond's syndicated articles

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Check out your child's temperament
 
 
Learn general strategies for managing the highs or lows of your child's temperament. Discover what specific behavioral issues are normal for your child's temperament. See when and how often these issues are likely to occur in the next year. Get information, tailored to your child's temperament, for managing each issue you are likely to encounter. See what other parents of similar children say works well, and what doesn't.

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  Not my Kid!  
 
Features a comprehensive BEHAVIORAL HEALTH QUESTIONNAIRE that helps parents pinpoint problems. It produces an extensive on-line automated report with many individualised RECOMMENDATIONS to help solve them.

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  Or is it about US??!  
  No, that's not meant to send you on a guilt trip!!

Through their normal limit testing, kids quickly discover and can exploit our blind spots without really understanding why we tend to react in predictable ways.

If your child is excessively bossy, controlling, always trying to make others compromise (for no apparent reason), expending a disproportionate amount of energy over seemingly trivial issues or objectives, we may have unwittingly encouraged it! A solution is at hand which will help us first look at ourselves and find out what is preventing us from being effective.
 
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This book focuses on teaching parents to become 'manipulation proof' by recognising those blind spots. These 'hidden agendas' include things such as parental guilt, fear, lack of confidence, inconvenience, conflict between parents etc.

Ignore the unfortunate title! It offers a powerful insight into healthy family dynamics.
 
     
 
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A great program to help you stop yelling! Free sample chapter. Includes audio and movies.
Central Auditory Processing Disorders (CAPD)
If you think they are not listening, they may not be hearing you.
CAPD is an unusual but increasingly diagnosed disability - a kind of 'hearing' dyslexia. Synptoms closely resemble those of ADD.
A lovely site written by a mum with a CAPD child

A more formal approach from KidsHealth.org

Further resources from the Listen Up website
CAPD handout for parents and teachers
Takes forever to download - but worth it! (or switchoff graphics in your browser)
Living with an invisible disability
(See Invisible Disabilities webring below)
I think in pictures, you teach in words - all about the gifted, sensitive AND spirited child
5 WEEK PARENT-CHILD GAME course
Parentline offers a freephone national helpline plus courses in parenting to help you regain control (and your sanity!)
 

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